Simple Tips for First Time Speed Daters

What brings you to a speed dating event? Were you talked into it by a friend, or maybe you came to realize on your own that speed dating is a fun and exciting way to find love. No matter the reason once you get to the event you want to make the most of it to ensure the evening is a success. We at Soul Sidekick have five basic tips that will help ensure you present yourself effectively.

BE YOURSELF

This one seems fairly obvious although in our experience we have noticed people find it easier to play someone else or act as their expected to. What if you end up across the table from your perfect guy or gal? You don’t want to present yourself as someone you are not. Be yourself and trust the process, we guarantee you will find someone who likes you for you. Plus, it’s the only way to form a true lasting connection.

USE THE TIME

When you attend a Soul Sidekick speed dating event you have five minutes to meet with up to twenty local and eligible singles. Five minutes can feel like forever or pass like the snap of a finger when the connections are good. No matter how you are feeling about the individual, use your time wisely. Likely you won’t be able to get into an in depth conversation about the meaning of life although you can do much better than shifting around asking awkward questions. Prepare, keep a few questions in your pocket and get inspired by the time pressure!

OBSERVING IS EVERYTHING

Of course we want you to be prepared and to feel comfortable asking questions to your dates just be sure not to dominate the conversation. Remember to be a good listener, acknowledge their answers and let the conversation flow smoothly. Try your best not to sound scripted. You can also learn a lot about a person by the way they speak, how they move and whether they maintain eye contact.

TRUST YOURSELF

Don’t forget you only have 5 minutes with each date to make a good impression. Although, your intuition will tell you in a blink of an eye whether or not you may be compatible with this person, god gave you a gut, trust it! If you get a bad vibe don’t stress, regroup you still have nineteen others to meet. If some make you feel good, embrace that and hope for a mutual match, let the sparks fly!

HAVE FUN!

This may seem like another no brainer but we find some attendees can get shy and a little overwhelmed with the experience. It’s all too easy to get distracted with our thoughts; on how we look, how we sound, trying to rehearse your next line, thinking about your last date or ahead to the next one, trying to read the minds of the match across from us…. The list goes one. Try to stop thinking and just have fun! Take a deep breath and enjoy the experience! Yes, it’s 20 mini dates, it’s also a fun night out with great company.

You’re now ready for your first Soul Sidekick speed dating event, join us and take a shot at love! We look forward to seeing you there!